Abuse is an attempt to have power and control over another person by hurting or mistreating them. If you are in an abusive relationship please call 519-539-4811 or 1-800-265-1938 to talk to someone about your options.
Domestic Abuse Services Oxford does not subscribe to call display and you do not have to give your name. All calls are confidential.
The types of abuse include…
Hitting, punching, beating, slapping, pulling hair, use of weapons, mutilation, burning, biting, murder
Any forced sexual contact ranging from unwanted touching to rape, harassment
Threats, insults, name-calling, blaming and accusing, swearing, shouting
Emotional / Psychological
Withholding love, sympathy or understanding, inadequate physical or emotional care, isolation, intimidation, extreme jealousy, destroying property, threatening to commit suicide
Stealing, withholding money and/or denying access to employment opportunities, preventing access to household financial information
belittling a person’s spiritual beliefs or preventing them from attending the church, synagogue or temple of their choice
One out of every four Canadian women will suffer some type of abuse during her lifetime and every year, one in 10 Canadian women are physically battered by her partner. Domestic violence and abuse occurs in all socio-economic groups and cultural/religious backgrounds and it affects women of all ages.
Domestic assault is a crime.
The cycle of abuse
Domestic abuse (also called domestic violence, wife abuse, family violence and partner assault) is rarely a one-time occurrence. It usually takes place as part of a cycle that includes the following phases…
Insults and other verbal attacks; minor abusive situations; victim tries to be compliant, “walks on eggshells,” and feels helpless; atmosphere becomes increasingly more oppressive.
Built-up tensions erupt into incidents ranging from severe verbal/emotional abuse to physical/sexual assault and can last from a few minutes to a few days, depending on the relationship. It is during this time that a woman is most likely to be seriously injured or killed by her partner.
Following a violent episode the abuser is usually contrite and attentive; the victim once again recognizes the person she first fell in love with and may be inclined to believe his promises to change.
Domestic abuse rarely stops without some form of intervention. The cycle usually repeats itself with the violent episodes escalating in frequency and intensity.