Domestic abuse is a serious and widespread problem that has been difficult to solve, largely due to reluctance on the part of victims and their families to discuss the issue. We believe it is important for people to understand the facts surrounding domestic violence. The following are some of the questions we are commonly asked. If you have a question about domestic abuse, you can e-mail us at info(at)daso.ca or call us at 519-539-4811.

Why do women stay in abusive relationships?

There are many reasons why a woman might stay in, or return to, an abusive environment. They include:

  • Fear of reprisal
  • Reluctant to break up the family
  • Concern about children’s welfare and/or about losing custody
  • Lack of money, job skills and/or opportunities
  • Concern about pets, property, possessions
  • Fear of being alone
  • Cultural, religious beliefs
  • Pressure from family, friends
  • Feelings of shame and embarrassment
  • Believe abuser’s promises to change

Women attempt to leave an average of six to seven times before making the final move away from an abusive relationship.

Why don’t more women report cases of assault to the police?

Victims may not report assault for several reasons including fear of retaliation, lack of knowledge about legal rights, and concern that they won’t be believed. They may feel intimidated by the criminal justice system or worry that the police and courts will not protect them adequately.